Holding space for peoples processes is pretty full on.
Being able to take people back to their traumas to process and support them how they need...
In private sessions - the pain they have held since childhood or shock and trauma from some memory.... holding bigger groups for huge releases is a lot energetically too.... occasionally rocking people in my arms so they can feel held, supporting them to release pent up anger from decades of stress and unpack awful things they went through... it all takes a huge amount of energy and toll on my body.
I don't have time for friends or socialising - i don't need it. It's a bit like the soldiers who come back from war and stand staring at cereal boxes in a supermarket.
Sometimes it takes me days to recover after ceremonies..... being as sensitive as i need to be to be able to feel into what people are going through - also means i am generally sensitive.
I don't have capacity for bullshit, for shooting the breeze or time wasting.
I need a lot of time alone, a lot of rest and to give myself huge amounts of self care.
The only way i can be strong enough to manage all this is with great boundaries,
I ask clients to bring their processes to session not to send me it in messages.... i encourage clients to journal and to use support groups, i even create support groups so that they feel not alone.
We are not in a society where supporting each other is the norm, but this is something we must learn, not something to be lumped on to the shoulders of healers and space holders to carry all of the burden.
I work best for you when i am strong and in session.... i'm pretty hard on my clients... i expect them to respect boundaries, to do their own work and homework, and to reach out only when necessary regarding sessions.
Otherwise i would be answering messages, stuck on the phone and up and down going through the turbulence of everybody's processes 24/7.
I expect them to remember changes they have made and to sort out their own rearrangements, i don't chase them up.
The work i do is pretty hardcore - i can handle it though as my life in preparation was super hardcore.
But i have to protect my energy and my space and my mind.
My energy is in many areas globally, in many conflicts and communities and processes.
Believe it or not i also have my own family, we have our own ups and downs, and i have my own souls journey and traumas to heal and overcome.
So this is just a little reminder to say, that i love what i do and i am so so passionate. I wanna support everyone to be their best selves and shine their light.... but time is precious and things will be changing for me going into the new year.
I wont be as accessible, i will start to record my sessions, and as the world is currently burning up in flames i am feeling called to bigger causes than simply supporting individual processes as much.
I will still have my private sessions, but i will be doing less hand holding and i will be even more pushing the responsibility into your own hands.
The time of self responsibility is upon us.
There is so much more going on than whats happening in our own individual lives.
Thos who are meant to hold space need to get their shit together.
Everyone need to get on their own path.
Accept the challenge that this life has presented them.
This has all been preparation.
We are in it together and the new earth is possible, but it depends on WHAT WE DO.
So with all that said.... if we can lets google it, if we are scared - create groups or join communities, and lets take care of each other - because frankly - there are bigger fish to fry.
Watch this space....... 2025 is gonna be a BIGGIE.
x
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