Extremism: and why it's helpful & ethical to come back into more of a state of balance.

Every day we see on our screens extremist violent attacks, protests, opinions & more.....

Of course this might be just what makes the headlines, but it happens way too often these days to be passed off as just fringe groups or as the minority.

So why are we seeing such extremes? Why do we witness so many with such inability to hear and hold and honour different perspectives and nuance?.... So much rigidity and black and white thinking with no room to budge?... So much ugly ego out loud in all of its various forms...? And along with it so much disdain and unkindness...

Somebody from the US told me - they do not discuss politics because it triggers peoples generational trauma... and I would have to somewhat agree.

Mention certain leaders names in particular lights and you can lose friendships of decades in a split second.

Have a specific opinion or a different view and you can be attacked by those who were once firmly in your corner because they believed it previously to be the good corner, the righteous one as opposed to the now wrong & bad one.

Some cannot fathom a middle ground, assuming you must have been brainwashed, you must have something wrong with you -- and then you can even get aggressively taunted for not holding their same very rigid view... told they will pray for you or call you some crazy insult.

What the hell is going on you might be thinking?

I do think of course there are many who quietly behind the scenes are able to hold opposing views and different truths at once. Not everyone is triggered into such extremism and for sure we are all seeing and hearing the world through different lenses -- some more clear, healed and open than others.

Some are still holding onto negative beliefs and traumas which others have long healed beyond, allowing for more flexibility of thinking and openness... Less triggers to spring up because of things that haven't been faced.

I know this to be true and I have even sat in the same room in what some would call quite a racist state in the US to be told by a white man the most abhorrent racial slurs, and in the same room a black man laugh out loud in disbelief and remark - racism in 2015 seriously....?!

We are all definitely living in very different realities all at the same time, based on our levels of consciousness -- but still why the mass extremism?

During covid times I kind of found my way to the middle, yet many picked their side and off they went. Some, aggressively attacking those without masks - and some aggressively attacking those with masks.... Both as bad as the other in my eyes and neither of them acting correctly or fairly. I mean what if you are old or have an immune system that is compromised? What if you died because you didn't have the jab, and vice versa -- if you were healthy and can fight it perhaps there is no need. (I personally had asthma and couldn't even wear a mask and got attacked for that) Some continue this ridiculous argument about who is right to this very day.

There is always a sane middle ground that takes into account both sides.

In the US we have the hard right and the equally extreme left.... the more extreme the left go, the more hard the right... Can you see?

For example in this immigration argument - we must protect borders if we are being infiltrated by those who want to attack us, but at the same time there are many good people without visas and green cards just wanting to live their lives in peace. ... But the harder and more violent the lefty activists get on the streets and in marches the more hard the right will come down, brutally and cruelly.

Then there are the extreme religions, that have lost the truth that religion is about love, and love is the way... no matter which way you choose to live it.... yet they would rather ram it down your neck, politicise it, turn away from you or even kill you if you choose another religion or partner or another way of living.

Those with extremist views are hurting themselves and they are hurting us all... they are destroying communities, relationships, and quite often families, so how can we fix this?

How do we find the healthier and more balanced middle ground?

Well first of all we have to shine a light on the problem and admit there is a problem.

Then one way of balancing things out is by genuinely sitting with the qualities and positive angles of the opposite extremes, and leaning into them and appreciating them a little.

The conservatives can learn to be a little more liberal and the liberals a little more conservative to find the happy medium where we can perhaps learn to live and let live.

Easier said than done when pride is involved.

This is one of the ways I can work with people when they come to me with such strong painful opinions & beliefs that are really not serving them or our world frankly.

Healing is the way forward and awareness... and this takes being open to change, to new ideas and ways of seeing things, again not always that easy.

Those with the strongest pride and ego are also the least likely to even think they are the problem, thats why it's on us -- Those of us able to heal and with a genuine want to change, to do the work and become better, so that we can sit at these tables more calmly.

Many have been hard wired by trauma... with very rigid ways of thinking programmed into them from a very young age. Microdosing allows for more neuroplasticity, along with meditation and of course breath work.

Old neural pathways in the brain that have been well trodden like a well walked path in the forest, are very easy to slip into and keep thinking the same old things. To think in new ways often takes a bit of effort and reprogramming.

Again there are techniques that I use in my sessions to help people to heal from this painful way of thinking and being in the world.

If we have healed and built up good self esteem and feel secure in who we are and independent, we also tend to be less easily triggered into such polarities in my opinion.

Those who unhealthily cling to others, showing codependent traits, succumb to mob mentality and virtue signalling -- needing to appear to be a good person for safety, over actually being able to hear out those with different or even lived experience, and being able to form opinions for them selves.

The weak and vulnerable are also more easily brainwashed. Those who don't feel a strong sense of community or purpose, can often find community and purpose in dangerous hateful groups or by going against another group.

In the end we can only heal ourselves and become a good example for others - but by strengthening our own sense of self we can speak up for ourselves more clearly and be heard. By healing our family traumas we can strengthen our bonds so that we don't so easily go against each other during discussions or confrontations - which are a part of life and of coexistence.

These are the basic skills needed to be strengthened to allow for healthier communities and countries and the world that we live in. And it all starts with you.

You have no idea the huge ripple effect that you have by doing the inner work and becoming a healthier and more balanced human.

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